Forgiveness does not mean, “What you did to me is okay.” It means, “I am no longer willing to carry around pain in response to your actions. When we hold un-forgiveness in our hearts, we only punish ourselves.
The resentment is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die
Forgiveness is a choice. You are saying that you will no longer hold onto pain and resentment for what was done to you.
You come to realize that the hurt feeling that you have been holding onto for so long is nothing but your egos response to the situation.
Forgiveness means you are choosing to release the feelings that have held power over you. To forgive is to find freedom.
You begin to say: Forgiveness is for me….Forgiveness sets me free.
“To be wronged is nothing, unless you continue to remember it”. ~~Confucius
“Forgiveness is giving up the hope that the past could have been any different.” ~~Oprah
Sometimes we come out of bitter relationships. These relationships can be personal, job related, friends, family, etc. In bitterness we may say, “I was God’s gift to that person or situation.” That person or situation hurt us or didn’t appreciate us.
Well, if we were God’s gift to them and they didn’t appreciate the gift (us), then is that not between them and the gift giver (God)?
Once we are sent in as the gift and do what we were sent to do, our job is done… complete. It would be nice if we got a thank you. But not many people go around thanking the gift….their thanks go to the gift giver.
When our role as the gift is over, the relationship is no longer needed. That is when the “gifter”, or the receiver of the gift appears to leave or do something hurtful to the other.
There is no reason for the relationship to continue. There are bigger and better experiences waiting for one, or the other or both of you.
And one more thing, when you know beyond a shadow of a doubt that you did not deserve to be treated a certain way and it has caused you pain of heart, that is when you know that your Higher Power (HP) has sent in the guides to let you know that you don’t need that kind of company.
Walk away quickly and don’t even attempt to make the relationship work. It is not meant to be and you received your guidance early on before you got too involved in the relationship.
This is when you say, “I forgive fill in the blank and thank, him/her/it for the blessings I am to receive from my Higher Power as a result of their actions towards me.
All of us are evolving. We are all becoming Ascended Masters on earth. Ascension is to rise up in evolutionary growth.
“Ascension doesn’t come from climbing, it comes from Letting Go.” ~~Soni
Listen to Duchess and Jewels Talk about Forgiveness: http://www.blogtalkradio.com/insidematterstalk/2013/09/01/forgiveness